Psychologists Identify 9 Common Phrases Self-Centered People Use Without Realizing Their Impact

You start telling a story about a long, tiring week. He jumps in with, “That reminds me of when I…” before you get to the middle. The focus changes without warning. Your stress, fatigue, and even your small win at work fade into the background. People laugh at his story and agree with it, and then your moment is gone, like steam from a coffee cup.

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You think about the conversation again on the way home, trying to figure out what the strange emptiness you feel is. No one was rude in front of everyone else. There was no insult. But somehow, you became a minor character in your own story. The language itself has a pattern in it. Once you see it, you can’t help but notice it.

9 Phrases You Use Every Day People who are self-centred use it without knowing it

People who are self-centred don’t often call themselves that. They often show up as fun coworkers, funny friends, or good leaders. The pain gets worse over time. Over time, you notice how nearly every conversation curves back toward them. Their words quietly draw attention to their feelings, thoughts, and problems.

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Most of the time, the behaviour is not on purpose. Many learned early that being heard meant speaking first, loudest, or longest. To survive, they filled silence with “I,” “me,” and “my.” Eventually, these habits turn into phrases that sound harmless but are actually very harmful to other people.

Listen carefully and you’ll catch the pattern: versions of “enough about you, let’s talk about me,” softened by polite wording. Lines like “Anyway, here’s what I think,” “I already knew that,” or “You’re overreacting” subtly tilt the emotional balance of the room. Nothing dramatic happens. Instead, your voice is slowly downgraded to a footnote.

“I’m Just Being Honest”

This phrase often follows a sharp comment about your choices, appearance, or relationship. It sounds virtuous, as if honesty excuses the lack of care. You open up, and the response is a blunt judgment wrapped in moral language. Honesty becomes a shield, not a bridge.

Imagine a coworker nervously sharing their first major presentation. They ask for feedback. You offer a small, thoughtful suggestion. They brush it aside and reply, “Well, I’m just being honest—your part was confusing too.” There’s no curiosity, no effort to help. The focus swings back to their reaction, framed as truth.

Beneath this phrase is the belief that their perception sets the standard. Over time, you may find yourself censoring what you share, knowing that vulnerability will likely be met with “honesty” that wounds more than it helps.

“I Already Knew That”

At first glance, this line seems harmless. In practice, it often shuts down connection. You share a new idea, an article, or a realization that mattered to you. Instantly, they flatten the moment by claiming prior knowledge. What could have been shared excitement becomes a quiet comparison.

Picture sending a friend an article about burnout because it finally put words to your own exhaustion. You hope for understanding. Instead, the reply is, “Yeah, I already knew that—it’s everywhere.” No question. No concern. Just a signal that the information, and by extension your insight, isn’t special.

This phrase reveals a need to stay ahead. It competes instead of connects. The meaning the information holds for you is ignored, leaving you feeling smaller and less inclined to share again.

“You’re Overreacting”

This sentence carries weight. It appears when you try to express hurt, discomfort, or a boundary. Instead of curiosity—“What made you feel that way?”—your emotion is dismissed as excessive. The conversation ends before it can begin.

Imagine telling a partner, “It bothered me when you joked about me in front of your friends.” The reply comes fast: “You’re overreacting. It was just a joke.” Your experience is reframed as a mistake. Their intention outweighs your reality.

Often, this phrase protects self-image. Acknowledging your feelings would require facing their impact. So the logic flips: instead of “I hurt you”, it becomes “You feel too much.” Over time, this can make you doubt your own emotional instincts.

How to Recognize These Phrases Without Losing Yourself

Hearing these patterns in real time is like adjusting a lens. Nothing changes outwardly, but the details sharpen. Start by noticing frequency. How often do you hear “I’m just being honest,” “You’re too sensitive,” or “Here’s what you should do”? Awareness always comes first.

When one of these lines appears, pause internally. Translate it for yourself. “You’re overreacting” can mean “I don’t want to deal with this feeling.” “I already knew that” can mean “I need to feel ahead.” This private reframing reduces the power of the words.

Respond from your own ground. Simple statements work: “It may seem small to you, but it matters to me.” Or, “I wasn’t checking what you knew—I was sharing why this affected me.” You’re not arguing. You’re placing your experience back where it belongs.

Observing Patterns and Choosing What to Keep

Sometimes, the most effective response is observation. When someone says, “I’m just being honest,” you might reply, “Honesty works best when it’s kind,” and watch what happens next. Do they soften, or do they double down? Over time, patterns reveal themselves.

It’s also uncomfortable to notice how common these phrases are. Family dinners, meetings, group chats—they show up everywhere. On honest reflection, you may hear yourself using them too. Stress, fear, and habit push people into ego-protective shortcuts.

The real shift comes from choosing differently. You replace dismissal with curiosity, defensiveness with care. You invest more energy in people who ask how you are and less in those who never do. You’re not fixing anyone. You’re protecting the part of you that deserves space, respect, and to be fully heard.